It’s the holiday season, and while everyone is excited to see friends and family, you have more to worry about than presents and cookie decorations. You’re meeting the parents. And while this means your boyfriend doesn’t have a New Years resolution to break up with you, nerves can easily overshadow the excitement of your potential future together.
While I can’t be with you when his mom first opens the door, I can offer some quick tips to help the first meet and greet go smoothly. Follow accordingly, and you should steer clear of any major mishaps.
- Dress appropriately: Feel free to show your personal style, but limit the sexiness. Sure, Dad will pat your boyfriend on the shoulder if he brings home a sex kitten, but Mom will be less than amused. And trust me, you need Mom on your side.
- Go with the flow: Even if you have strong preferences for things like restaurants and activities, you might want to keep them to yourself this first meeting. Confrontational personalities will put people off initially, so hold off on presenting your opinions until you get to know them better. Help: You are the guest, but in this case, you’re also a co-host in training. Don’t sit around waiting to be served or watching others clean up. Should your relationship turn into a marriage, entertaining will become your responsibility, and his mother must be confident you can do the job.
- Converse, don’t dominate: Talk to his parents, don’t talk at them. While they want to know about you, it’s draining to hear someone speak about herself for days. Engage in two-way conversation by asking his parents questions or bringing up topics you know they’re interested in.
- Pay attention to your boyfriend: While you may be overwhelmed, don’t lose sight of why you’re in this situation to begin with – your boyfriend. His parents want to make sure you’re genuine and truly like their son, so don’t be afraid to snuggle or hold his hand in front of them unless your boyfriend tells you otherwise. He’s probably nervous too and could use some affection and reinforcement that you’re enjoying the meet-and-greet.
The idea of meeting his parents might be both exciting and nerve-wracking, but that’s okay. Most of us have felt the same way, but it’s important to remember that your boyfriend likes you for you and that matters most. Follow these tips, be yourself, and give his parents the change to get to know the real you. You’ll do great, but just in case – good luck!